What is Disconnection?
Disconnection is not a thing, nor a “psychological element” that manipulates us. Rather, disconnection is a “want”, within us—one we have and struggle to escape. It is something we desperately do not want to experience, yet it remains a part of our lives. As we face a world filled with frustration and daily challenges, we often find ourselves more disconnected from life and reality than we want to be.
When we reflect on this sense of disconnection, we may begin to believe that God is also disconnected from who we are and why we exist. We tell ourselves that God does not care about us or understand our struggles. Yet we still wonder who God is to us and why we cannot feel His presence. But is this belief true? Does God really not care about who we are? No, this is not true at all. God cares deeply for every one of us, and He does so in the best and most complete way.
This is where darkness enters the picture. Darkness is a void—an endless, open emptiness filled with malice and greed. It is not a place meant for us, but a place we are meant to avoid. Within this void, disconnection becomes an inability to understand who God is and where we stand in our relationship with Him. At times, we desire things we know are not fully right, yet we pursue them anyway. When we do, we may begin to wonder why God feels distant or absent. If we truly desire what is right and want God to be part of our lives, then perhaps we must pause, reflect, and ask ourselves what needs to change and why.
Do we want to be with God? Is God really important?
As we look at ourselves, we must ask an important question: Is God truly important? The answer is yes. Why? Because God is one of the true foundations of our world. His love[1] for us is real and enduring. He offers us not only worldly provision but a life that is deeply fulfilling as we grow into His people. He calls us to be.
Even when we feel distant from God, He is never distant from us. God is always present and always available. When we feel disconnected, that separation does not come from Him—it comes from within ourselves. Once again, when we pursue things that are not quite right, we begin to wonder why God seems absent. Yet God has not left; rather, something within us has shifted.
God is important to many of us because of His constant presence and His unfailing love. He is our true spiritual guide—the one who desires no harm for us and seeks only what is good. But what does this mean for our lives? It means that wherever we go—anywhere on earth, or even beyond it—God is always there.[2] Always. Let us read what David, one of the Kings of Israel, said in his Psalm:
7 Where can I go from your Spirit?
Where can I flee from your presence?
8 If I go up to the heavens, you are there;
if I make my bed in the depths, you are there.
9 If I rise on the wings of the dawn,
if I settle on the far side of the sea,
10 even there your hand will guide me,
your right hand will hold me fast.
11 If I say, “Surely the darkness will hide me
and the light become night around me,”
12 even the darkness will not be dark to you;
the night will shine like the day,
for darkness is as light to you. (Psalm 139:7-12)[3]
This Psalm, written by David roughly between 1010 and 970 BC (more than 3,000 years ago), asks a profound question: Where can I go that God is not with me? David writes, “Where can I go from your Spirit?” Here, the “Spirit” refers to God’s Spirit. David is expressing that there is no place where God’s presence cannot reach us.
Because God’s Spirit is always with us, He knows where we are and where we are going. His presence is within us and around us at all times. As David says, “If I go up to the heavens, you are there; If I make my bed in the depths, you are there.” In other words, David is asking if there is any place so distant, so hidden, that God cannot see him. The answer is simple: nowhere.
If God is the Creator of the universe, then there is no place outside of His domain. Even at the end of this passage, David writes, “Surely the darkness will hide me and the light become night around me”. Yet even there, God sees the heart completely. Whether here on earth or far away in the vastness of space, we are always within God’s presence. We live in His domain, and because of that, He sees us—here, there, and everywhere—and He always will.
9 “And you, my son Solomon, acknowledge the God of your father, and serve him with wholehearted devotion and with a willing mind, for the Lord searches every heart and understands every desire and every thought. If you seek him, he will be found by you; but if you forsake him, he will reject you forever. 10 Consider now, for the Lord has chosen you to build a house as the sanctuary. Be strong and do the work.” (1 Chronicles 28:9-10)
If we want God to be with us, then we have to do what God wants us to do, and we need to find that way (“find that way” means praying [4] for it and understanding of your situation, and then what it means to you). If we made a mess of things, we can ask for forgiveness, because we didn’t really mean to make a mess. But still, God can always see us, and He still really loves us, even if we are bad.
What does disconnection mean?
As we move through life, disconnection can occur with our friends, our families, and the people we work with. This issue of disconnection is closely tied to who we are and how we respond spiritually. The disconnection we often feel is not simply emotional or relational; it is a spiritual separation from God, combined with uncertainty about how to respond when God speaks to us. Many people may not realize that God speaks to them, or they may struggle to understand His voice. Yet He does speak, and because He does, we must learn what this means and how to respond.
In the Bible, “disconnection” fundamentally refers to spiritual separation or estrangement from God as a result of sin and disobedience. This separation is not a matter of physical distance, but of a broken relationship—one that humanity cannot repair on its own. At the same time, disconnection can also be understood psychologically. It describes a feeling of detachment from oneself, from others, or from the world. This emotional detachment can include experiences of dissociation, a mental process in which a person disconnects from thoughts, feelings, memories, or even identity.
How do we respond to this sense of disconnection? We move toward recognition and reconnection with God. Scripture reminds us that separation is not God’s desire nor His final word. As the Apostle Paul assures us:
38 For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, 39 neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord. (Romans 8:38-39)
This passage reminds us that no form of disconnection—spiritual, emotional, or circumstantial—has the power to separate us from God’s love.
As we understand what Paul is teaching, we are reminded that God’s love is always with us, and therefore we do not need to live in fear. When we look at the world through the lens of disconnection, we are called to pray and to trust that God hears us. As we move in the spirit of reconnection with God, let us remember what was stated earlier in this paper:
“Disconnection is a ‘want’, within us—one we have and struggle to escape.”
This “want” reflects a deep emotional need for approval. We want others to affirm what we are doing and who we are. Whether we are corporate executives, farm workers, or even professional wrestlers, the desire for approval remains the same. We often go to great lengths to gain that approval.
Yet God is the approval we truly need. If God places us in a position to accomplish a task and calls us to work on it, then we are doing what is right. If not, then we must pause and reflect. When God gives us a task, things may not always be easy, and others may become frustrated with us—but that frustration will pass. Why? Because what God appoints, He also supports. A task given by God carries His purpose and His assurance. At times, that task may not be meant for us alone, but for a group working together, and this must also be considered.
If you believe God has given you a task and it begins to go in the wrong direction, this is a moment for reflection. Ask yourself: What has God truly given me? Is it lawful? Is it right? Does it serve others and contribute positively to society? Do I have wise mentors and leaders to help guide me? Can I write it down and form a thoughtful plan for its success? If these questions can be answered honestly and clearly, then you may be seeing a gift from God. If not, then it is time to slow down and reconsider.
The deeper question is this: Do you trust God and what He is asking of you? As you move through the process of reconnection, you will be challenged to trust His guidance. This is not easy, and you may resist it. You will need to ask many questions through prayer and reflection, seeking to understand what God is asking and why. Yet God is always present and always willing to help. He will never abandon you and desires only what is best for you. God does not mislead or deceive—what He speaks is truth, and it should be taken seriously.
Disconnection affects every part of life, but recognizing it is a sign of growth. This awareness marks the beginning of reconnection. You are not spiritually blind, nor are you failing because you struggle to understand what God is asking of you. This process is difficult, but with faith, it is possible. And through that faith, reconnection begins.
[1] If His Love is unclear to you, you may want to read MallMinister.com\Questions for Believers\Does God Really love me and why?
[2] If you have questions about the existence of God, please read: MallMinister.com/Questions for Believers/Does God exist and how
Can I tell?
[3] Within this text, all of the bible quotes (in italics) will be taken from the New International Version (NIV) Bible its copyright
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[4] Praying is the only way to talk to God. Read MallMinister.com/Welcome/Prayer-Guide and consider what praying means to you.